You would love to start but find it all confusing, scary and simply overwhelming?The Later Dater “reaches out to single women of 50, 60, 70, and above who want to date older, same age, or younger men and who need either a nudge in the right direction or some help understanding the intricacies, pleasures, pitfalls and rules of what can be a complex world of relationships.”It’s a small book, but BIG with helpful, honest, practical and informative advice for what is, after all, a very new social trend.The users of the secret-sharing app, Whisper, have revealed their own experiences of being a cougar; recounting both the threat - or reality - of being dumped, and the joys of feeling sexy and 'in control'.'My cub left me...I feel so Demi Moore,' a woman posted, in reference to Ms Moore's doomed relationship with fellow actor Ashton Kutcher, who was 15 years her junior when their eight-year relationship crumbled in 2011."There was a woman there who was flirting with younger guys.He said, 'She looks like a cougar on the prowl.' I decided to make it a term for women 40-plus who date younger men and don't want to settle down." Other experts have expanded the definition to include older women who have long-term relationships with and marry men 10-plus years their junior. As “cougars”, it’s easy to get carried away with our own agendas completely disregarding what the “cub” brings to the table.
According to Valerie Gibson, the relationships columnist for The Toronto Sun, and a self-acknowledged pioneer cougar, we have not. I really get very angry that older women are sort of told that they're not valuable. And I say: Excuse me, I hate to burst your bubble [Laughs] but I can tell you for sure that it goes rolling on. I must say, it's a weird thing -- and it's really just how it works out -- but I never date or have married any man with children. And what a smart girl: she didn't just keep going because he was so handsome, she just said: It's not right for me. Meeting people is a matter of personality and wanting to meet people. My father wouldn't let me move out of the house at all unless I was married. The fact that he was bisexual has got nothing to do with it. I would have married the first one and I might have married the fifth one. And if they've got any sense they won't marry you, because you're a bad wife. Make your words count, and back them up with action. Everyone wants to have a say in the younger man/older woman relationship. Try not to allow judgement from others sway your love for each other. Sure you have some potential disagreements and conflict. But hate – or dread - the idea of starting over to find a special person?Don’t know how to or even understand the new rules, attitudes, sexual or social etiquette of dating today?