We had known each other as acquaintances in High School, but reconnected through mutual friends while I was finishing my first year of University.
One of the biggest, hardest changes for both of us happened about six months ago when Alex told me that they were genderfluid.
Although it was a huge challenge to accept at first, it has really strengthened our relationship.
They (I’m using for the sake of clarity; Alex isn’t fussy about pronouns) told me this after what felt like an eternity of fighting, and we had had strap-on sex for the first time.
Also, it’s worth noting that “sexual orientation” itself is a loaded – and in some ways limiting – term.
I’m using it here to employ at least one term most people are familiar with, and to describe a combination of physical, emotional/romantic, and spiritual attraction.