As a married man standing on the side lines, I must say you single ladies have got to put up better boundaries in your dating relationships!
Think: fences, walls, lines in the sand, and some firm non-negotiables. But don’t you want to be loved by an honorable man and not a jackass?
But God will empower you to change your life for the better if you change the way you respond to your circumstances.
While you often can’t control your circumstances, you can always control how you respond to those circumstances as you surrender them to God and follow the Holy Spirit’s guidance to set the appropriate boundaries.
Your coworkers delegate tasks to you that they should be doing, but you do the extra work because you want to please them.
Your husband tells you that he doesn’t want you to go out with friends, and you stay home for fear that he’ll get angry if you do try to enjoy a night out.
I'm currently in a relationship with a guy who is a Christian, and we're in a forward-moving relationship.
We've discussed sexual temptation and how we want this to be a God-honoring relationship.
In fact, his desire is that we live life to the full!Editor's Note: The following is a report on the practical applications of Allison Bottke’s new book, Setting Boundaries for Women: Six Steps to Saying No, Taking Control, and Finding Peace (Harvest House, 2013).Your adult children ask you for money yet again, and you go ahead and give it them against your better judgment even though they haven’t paid you back for prior loans.Setting a boundary shows that you respect yourself. But you also deserve to be married (if you desire to be). What are you “putting out” there and communicating to the world at large? Which is a critical piece of communication in the first 3 months of dating. Setting a boundary is not an attempt to control Setting a boundary is not an attempt to control the other person – although some of the people who you set boundaries with will certainly accuse you of that – just as some will interpret it as a threat. If you’ve been hanging out in the “dating zone” far too long, make him “crap or get off the pot.” Enough stringing you along. Start changing things up, by putting up a time boundary and see how he responds.